The entrepreneur Kylie Jenner spoke about the difficulties she experienced after the birth of her second child in February 2022.
These days there is a lot of talk about the overexposure of minors on social networks, a complex and multifaceted theme that also includes the representation of motherhood, often distorted and dysfunctional, which is conveyed on the web.
A glossy story in which everything is perfect, with no fatigue and out-of-place hair. A sweetened and partial narrative that can often cause feelings of despair and inadequacy to those who have a smartphone in hand.
Kylie Jenner at ‘The Kardashians’
The baby blues have always been around, but today they can be even more violent. Kylie Jenner also talked about it in the latest episode of the reality show The Kardashians.
“It was tough (…). I cried for three weeks. I had to lie on the bed every day since my head hurt.”
What is the baby blues, how is it recognized, how to intervene, and why is it wrong to confuse it with postpartum depression?
“I’m not a doctor, but I have read on Google that they call baby blues when it lasts no longer than six weeks. After six weeks, I started feeling better. But I had a baby blues,” continued Kylie Jenner, who became a mother for the second time in February, talking to her sister Kendall.
According to the statistics published on the website of the Ministry of Health, “70-80% of mothers experience the so-called baby blues,” a disorder that is partly physiological because it is caused by hormonal changes (in detail, the sudden drop in progesterone and estrogen), but above all mental.
With motherhood, the new mother finds herself building unused balances and a new personal identity, experiencing a loss of self and of one’s references built up to that moment.
These are titanic transformations on the physical, psychological and relational levels that can strain them.
When the malaise is temporary and resolves within a few weeks, we speak of baby blues, a term coined by the English pediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott to define the symptoms of unstable mood, crying fits, tiredness, despair, and sadness that women often experience.
In the first days after childbirth and for the first two / three weeks. For the temporary state, it is unnecessary to go to a specialist (even if it can only do well, let us always remember).
It is essential to open up with one’s circle of affection and be accompanied during the difficult adaptation period.
Men can also suffer from baby blues for the same reasons as above: lack of sleep, stress, difficulty adapting to the new role and new life, and the fear of not being able to meet one’s and others’ expectations.
Suppose the malaise persists and worsens with symptoms similar to depressed mood, loss of interest and pleasure, reduced energy, lack of confidence and self-esteem, excessive guilt, difficulty concentrating, sleep, and appetite disturbances, also affecting care skills. In that case, it is advisable to contact a specialist (psychotherapist and psychiatrist) who will diagnose postpartum depression and identify the right therapy to follow.
In addition to being misleading, the ideal image of the happy and always radiant new mother that one constantly encounters can also be dangerous, ditto for photos of perfect bodies and stories of forced and immediate happiness.
“Today’s society, which more and more often launches wrong and confusing messages, does not help women in this delicate phase of life,” explains Guidapsicologi; “the” myths “about motherhood can create unrealistic expectations, which can lead to a mother. in difficulty to experience real feelings of failure.”
That’s why Kylie Jenner‘s message, with 372 million followers and a unique sounding board, is a solid signal to clear stereotypes and break down taboos.
“I just want to tell mothers that postpartum was not easy,” Kylie Jenner had told her in some Instagram Stories last March, “it is tough. It is not easy either mentally or physically. I didn’t want to go back to social media as if nothing were out of respect for the other mothers going through this moment.”